Love is Grief

I watched a Tiktok video just this morning and it’s a video of a man talking about Love is a grief. At first I don’t understand it, because grief is a negative emotion and I never felt that in my entire life. How can love and grief be deeply so connected?

That’s when I realized, I just got my heart broken by a man I pledged my commitment with my whole being. When you pledge your commitment to someone, it is not bound by any paper or any law. It is only binded by love.

Unconditional love.

Because commitment is, In sickness and in health. For richer or for poorer. now and forever. Forever and always. Today and everyday. In this lifetime and in the next. No matter how long it takes, it will always be you and me.

Now, that we know commitment, what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love, love without conditions. Not demanding. Not asking. Not expecting. Just in your being. Letting the person be the person that they are. Love is free. When there’s peace, calm and serenity. Love is having fun. Safe. Love is home.

By having someone who you pledged your commitment and love with all your being break your heart, you just gave them the power to hurt you. And when someone hurt you, you chose to forgive them. Not because they deserve it, but because you deserve it. You owe it to yourself, that forgiveness. Because the love that you give is unconditional. Because your commitment is a vow.

And it’s not your fault to be this way because that makes you, you. So we chose to forgive. We chose to love beyond that pain, beyond that power, beyond that ego. So you are grieving that the love you give, has also the power to give you pain. Because you are love. Unconditional. It transcends time, space, energy and logic.